Friday, April 27, 2012

Where does the day go?

Here it is just about noon and I have finished my paying work for the day--and finished it early. Part of the challenge I've had lately is that I have wondered where my time goes. At 5:00 when my husband is getting ready to come home, I look over my partially completed to-do list and figure that when he gets in, he'll have that look of "So...what did you do today?" (Although since he recently had the grand experience of doing the SAHD/full-time WFH life for a few days, he knows how quickly one's day gets eaten up on "little things" and work.)

Averaging out my hours for the week, I put in about six hours per day on the "paying work", which is more than I had agreed to earlier this year. At the same time, bringing in the extra money is useful to try and hit our life goals and isn't impacting life...much. It just means that there's an extra layer of dust on the knick knacks that didn't get tended to this week and there's a handful of expired coupons in the dish on the microwave. Wednesdays, my day off, seem to get eaten up by shopping and other errands.

But right now the biggest obstacle I'm having is motivation. Part of it is that my allergies to the locust trees are driving me crazy. (Both ears plugged today...whee!) Part of it is focusing on that vacation in less than a month. And part of it is that my motivation is just missing at the moment. My guess is that I'll find it sooner rather than later, but in the meantime, I'm glad that everyone's doing okay with me letting a few things slide here and there. Most importantly, I'm okay with it. That's a good thing, considering I just totally blew off a half hour writing this post about nothing. Off to the household needs!

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

And around again...

"I'm starting a blog," I tell my husband as he tries to relax after a long day at work.

When no response comes immediately, I feel obliged to add "....again."

My husband is a man of great perception and wisdom. And although I don't think he can count the number of blogs that I've started, abandoned, detonated, or lost somewhere in the Internet, he says the only correct answer that a husband can give when his wife makes that kind of a comment. "If it makes you happy, you know I support you."

I find myself amazed that I can write more books than I have fingers to count, and yet something as simple as a non-paying blog frequently stymies my attempts to maintain. It might be that I do keep busy with paying work as a freelance editor. It might be that I now have a child nearing her second birthday, which means the joys of stay-at-home-motherood to a young lady who is too smart for her own good, but tempers it well with the stubbornness of the Terrible Twos in physical form.

"We're going on a huge vacation next month, and I do want to share trip reports and the like," I explain, trying to justify why blogging and why now.

"That sounds wonderful," my husband replies. I do think he's genuinely convinced that trip report posts would be worthwhile, at least.

"And, who knows...maybe I'll work my way back into writing again instead of just editing," I state with the sudden realization that every justification I come up with for why I'm starting a blog is a better reason for why I should not start a blog. Work has been plentiful and prosperous, and the idea of walking away from good-paying work for the potential of mediocre-paying work as a writer is a silly one even to my ears.

Instead of counting off the handful of reasons why blogging is a good idea (or more importantly trying to find a handful of reasons why blogging is a good idea), I sit down and start typing.

"What's the name of this one?" he asks.

"Three Spinning Teacups!" I reply proudly.

I see him typing on the iPad, so I quickly add, "It's the number 3 and then spinning teacups, because if I spelled out three, it looked more like 'Threes Pinning Teacups', which sounded silly." Behold, I have my first subscriber and dedicated reader.

And if that's the only person who reads it, then this blog is a success. It's given me a creative outlet (again) and given my husband insight into what goes on in my head without me talking his ear off for hours on end.

"The Mad Tea Party reference is a cute one," he notes.

"And it fits," I reply. Thinking of how busy our lives are, and only getting more busy by the year, sometimes it does seem like we're teacups spinning around on the platform, brushing by each other and then spinning off to the far end of the space. It is very much a credit to the strength of our family that we're not mad.

Cheshire Cat: Oh, you can't help that. We're all mad here. I'm mad. You're mad.
Alice: How do you know I'm mad?
Cheshire Cat: You must be. Or you wouldn't have come here.

So what is the purpose of this blog? Again, back to Wonderland for the answer:
Be what you would seem to be -- or, if you'd like it put more simply -- Never imagine yourself not to be otherwise than what it might appear to others that what you were or might have been was not otherwise than what you had been would have appeared to them to be otherwise.

Very clear? Good.

Updates coming? Certainly.

When? That's all up to the twists and turns of the teacup world.

Oh, and as an aside, except for the starting of the blog, none of the aforementioned actually happened. Except for Alice talking to the Cheshire Cat. I am quite certain that must have happened.